People Like Me! They REALLY Like Me!

About two months ago, I began seeing a client who seemed to be addicted to internet pornography. As such, I spent some time online looking for good online resources and support groups for internet sex and porn addiction to help him (the idea being that rather than click on a bookmarked link to a porn site, he could click on a link to something that would help him when tempted online).

This past week, almost two months later, I got an instant message from someone online. Apparently, I had become listed as a member of one of the online support groups. Rather than summarize the brief conversation, I think it is more telling to just paste it below (with the guy's screenname removed, of course) and let it speak for itself:

Him: how's it going? I found your name on astarttorecovery.com.

Me: Hi. I should probably let you know that I signed into that group to get info for a client I was working with

Him: all ok. so you're not a "member"?

Me: no, I only visited that one time (in fact, I didn't even know I was listed there).

Him: i understand. can i add you to my messenger list anyway?

Me: why?

Him: just because

Me: I really don't know you yet

Him: what r your interests?

Me: music and my dog, mostly

Him: r u married?

Me: nope, single

Him: r u straight?

Me: Ummm....yeah....

Him: what r ur stats? if i may ask? you work out?

Me: I think you are looking for something else

Him: no i'm not. i'm just asking. recovering sex addict here. is that ok? i like to work out in my spare time


(this is the point at which I added him to my "Blocked" list)

So yeah, a 34 year-old married man hit on me the other day. Not only that, but apparently he is using online support groups to find new partners....really, within his psychology and addiction, makes sense to go to the place where everyone is vulnerable to online encounters like that....Still, I got hit on by a 34 year-old dude.

I have finally arrived in the online world.